Picture of Rebekah O’Brien (Courtesy).
Bizzare love triangles that shocked the world
By SPECIAL CORRESPONDENT
When the story of a Kajiado youngman siring a child with his 26 year-old step-mother broke out the entire country reverberated in shock and wonder.
The story revealed that Mzee Rempesa ole Kirkoya, a Kajiado butcher and widower was involved in a love triangle with his only son Lawrence Kanare.
At the centre of the controversy was a 26-year-old London gym instructor, Rebekah O’Brien, who had even revealed that she was patiently waiting for the father of her child who is also her step-son to join her in UK.
The story was first broken by the Daily Mail of UK and later reported by the Standard newspaper.
But residents of Olooshobor village in Kajiado County were shocked beyond their imaginations vowed not to allow their son to fly out of Kenya to join her former stepmother claiming to have sired a child with him.
According to the UK’s online publication Daily mail, Rebekah O’Brien, 26, had a relationship with Kirkoya, 40. After their relationship ended, Ms O’Brien began an affair with 19-year-old Kanare; she became pregnant and has since given birth to a baby boy.
However, Olooshobor villagers were to get more stunned when Kanare admitted that he was the father of O’Brien new born.
“I am ready to go and see my baby. We always communicate with O’Brien via phone and I have promised I will visit them and return home to continue with my studies,” he said.
However, this incident is just many among those involving fathers and their sons that have happened around the world and even in Kenya. There are even several books that have been written about bizzare love triangles.
In April 2013, residents of Kimumu estate in Eldoret were stunned by a bizarre incident in which a pastor publicly got into a fierce brawl with his son because of a university girl they both had been dating.
The man of the cloth, 46, known for his firm stand on immorality, is reported to have left many speechless when the shocking news wafted across the estate.
“What is my uncle looking for in the young university girls and aunty is still young and beautiful?” posed his nephew who stays with him when the news first reached him. Residents who spoke to Crazy Monday said they were bewildered by the acts of a man famed for delivering punchy sermons against societal decadence.
“We least expected this from him. He is very passionate in preaching against immorality,” lamented a middle-aged man in the estate. The incident began when the girl’s university went in recess to allow students to participate in the just concluded polls.
And in February 2008, it was extremely hard for Jacob Bowring to describe how his dad James went from his best mate to a mere sperm donor.
It was not the fact that his father got his ex-girlfriend pregnant soon after Jacob broke up with her that hurt him most. What Jacob found hardest to deal with was that his dad tried to run him over.
In a heated rage, James veered his car off the road and over the kerb, speeding at 50km towards his son, leaving 18-year-old Jacob to dash behind a lamppost to dodge the oncoming vehicle.
“I’m disgusted with my father for trying to run me over. I don’t know how a parent could do this kind of thing to his own flesh and blood,” Jacob said then from his Tauranga home. “I tell people I don’t have a father any more, I only have a sperm donor.”
Speaking exclusively to New Zealand Woman’s Weekly, Jacob revealed how the shocking events were a far cry from the tight bond he once shared with his dad. “Growing up, my dad was a great dad,” says Jacob. “Any time I needed help, he was there for me. I remember times when he and I would just jump in a car and go on a road trip. He was my best mate.”
But their relationship began to disintegrate, when 45-year-old James hooked up with Jacob’s 18-year-old ex-girlfriend, Krystal Clark, soon after she and Jacob broke up. The news of the union angered Jacob, especially when he discovered that Krystal was expecting his father’s child.
“It made my blood boil. I felt extremely grumpy, with a lot of hurt mixed in.” He and Krystal met four years ago at high school, and had been going out on and off over that time. But Jacob ended their relationship soon after Krystal moved in with him.
Jacob’s dad offered Krystal a place to stay in his house bus on family land near Tauranga. It didn’t take long for an intimate relationship to develop between the pair.
“I gave her a place to stay because she was desperate and had nowhere else to go,” says James. “When you live with someone else in a bus, things can get pretty close. One thing led to another, and the next minute, we fell in love.”
James, who suffers from bipolar disorder, says he has fathered about five children but is closest to Jacob, because he is the only one of his kids he has raised and lived with since birth. He says he loves and misses his son, and didn’t intend to hurt Jacob when he tried to run him over.
The incident occurred after the two exchanged profanities when Jacob was walking down the street, and James drove past him with Krystal and a 14-year-old girl in the car. James did a U-turn after dropping off the 14-year-old girl, drove back towards his son and mounted a grass verge, forcing Jacob to take refuge behind a lamppost.
“I was trying to scare Jacob, not hurt him. In an odd way, I was trying to tell him to pull his head in and be realistic about things,” James explains. “I do love my son. At one stage he was my entire reason for living, especially when I was suffering from traumatic stress.”
James was found guilty of recklessly operating a motor vehicle, assault with a blunt instrument and driving while disqualified.
Krystal said she plans to marry James in the future. She is saddened by what has happened, but says the bizarre love triangle is not the only reason why the father-and-son bond has been destroyed.
“There’s more going on in James and Jacob’s relationship and there are many things that have not been resolved. So I know not all of it is about me.”
As for Jacob, who works as a tyre fitter, he wants to move on with his life and says he will never reconcile with his father. “I don’t feel sad. I feel very angry. “I can’t forgive him. I’m done with him and I’m ready to move on with my life.”
Jacob says the love and support of his mother, Lesley, has helped him through the ordeal.
In October 2011, the mistress of a pastor was sentenced to seven years in prison after a jury convicted her of murder in the shooting to death of her lover’s wife.
Tyonne Palmer, 32, from Texas, wiped tears from her eyes as prosecutors called her a manipulative liar and said she deserved far more than her seven years for taking the life of Pauletta Burleson, 56, last year.
Assistant district attorney Kari Allen said: ‘You can’t just kill somebody because you don’t want to go through a divorce.That’s not right.’
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